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John and Nicole

Current Waiting Family

Dear Birthparents,
Thank you for taking the time to read our family profile. We can only imagine the emotions that you are experiencing right now; the love that you have for your baby and the strength that you have to share them with a loving family.  What a beautiful beginning this baby will have as you help them on their way to a life of happiness, adventure and love. 

We met 12 years ago through mutual friends, but it wasn’t until a year later that we became a couple.  During that time, we were both living in Los Angeles and had separate plans to move out of Southern California. In the coming months, those separate plans became one plan of moving to Oregon, this is when we became known as Team Hans.  After arriving and getting settled for a couple of years, we decided to get married. On a warm, September day, with our closest friends and family, we were married in our friend’s backyard. Our wedding was followed by a casual reception at the park with a Mexican buffet, a bouncy slide, a simple cake, and many friends. It was a great time!  Over the next few years, we became more involved in our careers as an accountant and a teacher. At this point, we decided to start a family and immediately became pregnant with Xander. It was a joy to share in being pregnant, as we always assumed that we would make a baby and adopt a baby. After Xander was born in 2012, we pursued the adoption process through the state, knowing that it could take around two years. After a year in the process, we began to feel frustrated with the system and the lack of support that we stopped trying to adopt.  We thought that maybe we should just try to have another baby because we really want Xander to have a brother or sister.  Unfortunately, we ended up miscarrying twice.  After so much grief, we talked about it and decided to go back to our original plan, which we had always wanted, and began the adoption process again.  We have never been more committed to adopting than we are now. We have been through many tough times together, and believe that marriage is a job and that we must work at it all the time. It has been 12 years consisting of careers, school, adventures, parenting, laughing and love that we have shared together.  We look forward to adding another little person to our family to share in these moments and be a part of our family. 

Our Home
We just moved into our forever home two years ago.  It has everything we need and more and we are happy to be here.  We live on a cul de sac and have the most wonderful neighbors. There are many other families and small children that live close by and we do many activities as a neighborhood. Two years ago, we started a Fourth of July block party, which has started a get together for most holidays. Last year, we had an ornament exchange party, the year before a New Year’s party, we will have an Easter egg hunt this year, and anytime it snows and we are stuck at home, everyone comes to our house to be together. We are so lucky to have found such a great community to raise a family.
In the summer, Xander goes on many adventures with Nicole to the new library, community pool, the many parks in our area and the zoo. They also enjoy the Children’s museum, OMSI, the splash parks, the nickel arcade and feeding the sheep in our neighborhood. 

Our Family and Friends
We are very close with our families and have friends all over the country. Only a few minutes from our house live John’s parents and Nicole’s mom. Xander spends at least one day in their care a week so he can have special time with them.  He often also has sleepovers at their house so that we can have a date night together.  As for our friends, though many of them live elsewhere, we have some wonderful friends and their families who we like to spend time with. We do a beach trip each year with our friends who have a son and daughter and love Xander. Collectively, we have 5 sisters. John’s two older sister’s live in Southern California, and we don’t seem them often. His younger sister goes to school in Washington and we see her throughout the year.  Nicole’s sisters live in Central California and New York.  We seem them both once a year, but do a lot of Face Time and Skype with them. Xander is very connected to them even though he is so far away. Xander currently has two cousins, with two more on the way on Nicole’s side and eight cousins on John’s side, though most of them are high school or older. 

Nicole about John
John grew up in Southern California with his three sisters. After high school, he attended Cal Poly Pomona, where he received his bachelor’s degree in accounting.  He has worked in this field for the last 18 years.  He currently works at a small import/export lumber company as a Controller.  When he is not working, John loves spending time with his family, catching up on the latest movies, watching baseball and dreaming up our next family vacation. 

John is the best partner, and we are truly a team. We have many opposite ideas and views when it comes to life, but they allow us to live a balanced life together.  He is a great provider for our family and is always coming up with ideas of how to make our lives easier, more fun and overall better.  He is also a great father to Xander. They play all kinds of silly games together, are always building something and he is constantly making Xander laugh. 

John about Nicole
Nicole grew up in Central California with her two sisters. After high school, she graduated from Cal State L.A. with her bachelor’s in Liberal Studies. Following this, she briefly pursued a career in job recruitment before returning to school at Portland State and getting her Masters of Education to become a teacher.  She has been teaching for over five years and is now attending school to get her Administrative License, which will enable her to be a principal in the coming years. 

I have come to realize that Nicole sees life as an opportunity to learn, and cannot wait to share all her knowledge with others. She is passionate about helping others, especially family and friends, and often gives all of her time and energy to anyone she feels may need a hand. She is an incredibly loving mother, and it is fun to watch “Mommy and Xander time.” This could include snuggling on the couch, or reading about the human body (his new favorite subject), before bed. The best part of this is when they are winding down and they both have huge smiles on their faces from their special one-on-one time.  Nicole is an amazing person who finds a way to be a wife, mother, sister, friend, teacher, and mentor all at the same time, and I cannot imagine my life without her.

About Xander
Xander is such an amazing child.  He brings us joy and keeps us on our toes at all times.  He has a kind heart and has wanted a brother or sister for at least the last year, to the point where he practices being a big brother with the babies at his daycare.  Xander is a curious child, who asks questions about everything around him and loves learning.  We go to the library often and he loves reading books together in his reading corner.  He is also very musical and we make up songs to learn about things like opposites, colors, and how to spell his name.  He also loves to dance and is quite good considering he has only ever taken one dance class. 

After reading this, we hope that you now have a sense of who we are as a family.  As this process moves forward, we hope to stay connected to the birth parents and/or birth family.  We understand that you may have your own wishes and needs over time and we hope to support those to the best of our abilities.  We are also looking forward to sharing the baby’s special story with them as they grow up and learn about us, as well you.  We feel it is important for this child to understand your roots as well as ours as he or she develops their own identity in their lifetime.  Thank you for taking the time to read our letter and best wishes to you.  We hope we are able to meet with you soon.


John and Nicole Hans

Joyce & Nick

Current Waiting Family

Dear Birth Mom,
Thank you for taking the time to consider us and look at our book! We truly cannot even begin to comprehend the difficulty of choosing the people who will parent your child. We hope that this small glimpse of our life and personalities will help make that decision a little bit easier. We welcome any questions and hope to have the opportunity to meet with you.

Let us start by telling you how we came to the decision to adopt. Rewind time about 9 years, Nick and I (Joyce) were still newlyweds and we made the decision that I was going to start school to become a nurse, and that we were going to wait to start a family until I was done. I just knew that I would be too distracted by littles to be able to focus enough on school to finish. Well here we are almost a decade later and I am an RN with an AA, ASN, and BSN! Who knew that it would take so long.

Now that we are ready to expand our family we have decided that we will become parents through adoption. Both of our lives have been touched by adoption and even while we were still dating we were happy to learn that we both wanted to adopt a child or two someday. We are ready to begin our family and that “someday” is here! We decided that rather than investigating infertility stuff after trying to get pregnant for a while, that we would instead direct our focus to having a child through adoption. We truly believe that God will put our book in the hands of the woman who is carrying the child that we are meant to adopt! It is hard to believe it, but we have been together for more than 10 years since we fell in love in our early 20’s and decided to get married. We first met at a swing dance through mutual friends who had just started dating each other. As we later learned, we were both relieved at the time to learn that the other already had a love interest and wasn’t looking for anything other than a friend. With that aside, we all enjoyed a long night of dancing; working up a big appetite. Late dinner naturally followed, and soon dancing then dinner became a weekly occurrence. One fateful night after several months went by, our friends were out of town so just the two of us decided to go together. At dinner we ended up talking for hours, sustained by free coffee refills until somewhere around 6am. We could not be separated after that night. After almost two years of dating, we got married in 2007 and purchased our home where we still live.

We are both artistic and musical, and dedicate a portion of our time, skills, and money to our church that does so much practical good in our community. We love spending time with family, friends, and our dog! Flopsy is teasingly referred to as our fur-child by many people who are close to us. We love taking her with us on adventures and playing with her at home.

Thank you for taking the time to look over our profile and considering us.

Joyce & Nick

Mike & Robyn

Placed Family

Dear Birthparents,

Thank you for taking the time to look through our family book.  We cannot imagine everything you are thinking and feeling at this time in your lives but thank you for considering placing your child for adoption so that we have the opportunity to have a child of our own to love and raise.

We met through a professional match-making service while living in Idaho when we had both just about given up on ever finding that special someone and were instantly completely comfortable together.  We dated for almost 3 years before Michael worked up the courage to propose and it took Robyn less than 3 minutes to say yes.  We were married just over a year later and moved in to Michael’s house. 

A year and a half in to our marriage Michael’s company transferred him to Portland, Oregon where we have now been living for almost 3 years.  For 3 years we struggled with unexplained infertility and were unable to have a biological child.  With finding each other later in life, whenever we discussed starting our family we always felt like adoption would be a potential option.

Whether it is Michael’s love of engineering, college football, and hockey, or Robyn’s love of nursing, crafts and reading we feel we have so much to offer a child.  We know that together we can overcome challenges and that we have a world of love and patience to offer.  We were both raised with a strong sense of what family means, both those you are born to and those you meet in life, and we look forward to a child and their birthparents completing our family circle in whatever form that takes.

We hope you enjoy reading the story of our lives and beginning to get to know us.

Michael & Robyn

Adam & Kathryn

Current Waiting Family

Dear Birthparent,

We want to thank you for taking the time to consider us as adoptive parents for your baby. We know it is no small decision and we truly appreciate the strength and courage you are showing through this process. We are deeply honored that you are reading our story.

About Us
We meet in our first week of college.  There was an immediate connection as we sat in the dorm and talked for hours with ease.  After dating for 4 months, we were engaged and then married 3 years later.

Kathryn has had surgery for ovarian cysts.  Though the surgery was successful, we have not been able to get pregnant.  After fertility testing and some attempts of IVF with no success, we have decided to add to our family through adoption.  We have worked extremely hard to eliminate the debt we accumulated from college costs and now feel we are in a good position financially to adopt.

We have enjoyed the time we have had together as a family, just the two of us and our pets, but we feel we are ready to share our love and our world with a child.

Adam is an easy going always optimistic personality!  He will make a great dad because he is kind, patient, and encouraging with everyone he knows.  He is always able to stay level headed even through the most hectic times. Kathryn is extremely detailed and always has her actions planned three steps ahead!  She will be a great mom because she is caring, mindful, and supportive.  She always looks out for those around her and helps them through their difficult times.

Together, we make a great team and support system.

We are a family who loves to travel, go to sporting events, camp, spend time with our families and friends and just have fun together!

About Adam:
I grew up with my younger sister and brother (Jennifer and Edward). My parents (Cliff and Gail) still live in the house we were raised.  My uncles, aunts, and cousins lived within 15 minutes of our house and you could always expect someone to stop by on a weekday evening or all day on the weekends.  We had a small farm with chickens, pigs, and cows.  I was expected to help by working on the weekends which included fixing fences to running to the house to bring out water or lemonade for my dad and uncles.  We would hay the fields during the summer, this is where I learned to drive a tractor and drive a truck at young age. 

When I started school, I wanted to be involved in everything.  I joined the Cub Scouts as a 1st grader and continued through high school where I became an Eagle Scout.  I loved sports and played baseball, basketball and football through grade school.  When I was in middle school, I decided to try wrestling to help me be a better football player.  After three years of wrestling, I fell in love with the challenges.  When I graduated high school, I had decided to go to Portland State University and walked onto the PSU Wrestling team.  I have always loved competition and wanted to give back and help foster that love of sports.  For over 10 years I have been an assistant coach on both the freshman football team and the high school wrestling team.  I love to camping, fishing, crabbing and the occasional hunt.  When I need a moment to relax and feel comfortable, I know I can always go home and spend time with Kathryn.  Kathryn and I enjoy the relaxing at home with our pets.

About Kathryn:
I spent most of my childhood in Arizona with my sister Cassie, parents Valerie and John.  I was born in Salt Lake City, Utah. We moved to Virginia when I was one and then we moved to Arizona when I was 5.  We had a pool and   always had people over to swim.  Every year I had a pool party for my September birthday. When I was 9 we moved to New Mexico for less than a year and then we moved up to Beaverton, Oregon.  When I was 11, I became CPR certified as a babysitter as I have always loved children and couldn’t wait until till I could spend more time with them.  I was the primary babysitter for our neighborhood as well as the only pet sitter.  I have also always had a soft spot for animals.  I have never met an animal that I haven’t liked or that hasn’t liked me.  We have always had pets when I was growing up and I can’t remember a time we didn’t have at least two dogs.  As I have gotten older my love for children and animals have only grown.  I have been lucky enough for Adam and myself to have a many animals to enhance our time together.  I have been able to enjoy my time with my two nieces and nephew and I am ready to add another little angel to our family.

Thank You,
Adam & Kathryn