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Jenifer and Chuck

Jenifer and Chuck

Dear Birthparent(s),

The first thing I want to say is thank you. You and I both have reasons why adoption has become a part of our lives, and I hope to share mine and my husband’s story with you through this letter and our family book.

My name is Jenifer and I am in my early thirties. I always thought I would have children before my thirties, but things haven’t worked out that way. I met my husband, Chuck, when I was 28. We were married 15 months after meeting and started trying to have kids immediately. After almost 3 years of trying naturally and with medical help, we have chosen to complete our family through adoption.

Chuck and I both have very tight knit families that want nothing more than to share their love with a child. Our parents have shown us what it is like to take your wedding vows seriously and are both still happily married. My parents will be celebrating 40 years at the beginning of 2012 and Chuck’s parents will celebrate 34 years. I know Chuck and I are just as committed and will provide a happy life for your child. Our child will be the first born grandchild for both of our parents and they can’t wait to meet him or her. We have already been given toys and handmade baby blankets from both families. This child already has all four grandparents, and us, wrapped around its finger and it isn’t even here yet!

I know in my heart that not only will our child have a great set of grandparents, but it will have an even better set of parents. I can’t wait to be a mom, but I really can’t wait for Chuck to be a dad. When you get past the exterior of tattoos he really is a gentle giant. Chuck loves to laugh and have a good time. You would think from his background in the Marine Corps that he would be stern and cold. He is far from it. Chuck is very kind and compassionate. He thanks me almost every day for “being so good to him” and tells me “I love you” at least 30 times a day. Chuck is the husband I always dreamed of having, and will be the best dad a child could ask for. He is my best friend and I hope someday our son or daughter will feel the same.

After 10 years of working for the same company I recently left my job to stay at home. I hope to be a stay at home mom when the child is young and have it in daycare as little as possible. Now that my schedule is free I am able to do more of the things I love. I recently got into photography and am still learning. I hope our child doesn’t get too mad with mom running behind holding a camera all of the time! Photography is a perfect subject because we love to do all kinds of outdoor activities. Camping with family is the one activity we love more than anything. We have a travel trailer to stay in, so we camp all year long. Even in the snow! Anything that has to do with the outdoors, family, or animals I am up for it. My fondest memories as a child were camping in the sand dunes, getting dirty, and sitting by the campfire with my parents, sister, aunts, uncles, and cousins. I hope to share these memories with our child and create new memories of their own.

I also have a close group of girlfriends that get together monthly for coffee and can’t wait for the day a baby joins us. They have been battling infertility as well, so I hope our adoption story will inspire them to consider adoption in their future plans. I am excited to be on this journey, and share it with everyone I know. If it weren’t for people like you, Chuck and I may never become the parents we have always dreamed of being. I have nothing but respect for you and would like to have several picture and letter updates as the child grows and periodic in person meetings.

Thank you again for taking the time to look into our life and consider us as parents for your child.

Jenifer

Dear Birthparents,

My name is Chuck and the reason I am writing you this letter is to tell you thank you for taking the time to look at our adoption book. The process you are considering is a tough decision to make, and I believe that after seeing our book, you will believe that Jenifer and I are an excellent couple to choose in adopting your child.

Jenifer and I are choosing adoption because of fertility issues and we would love to complete our family with a child. We have gone through artificial insemination with no luck, and three grueling in-vitro fertilization sessions. After seeing the physical and emotional pains that Jenifer went through during these processes, I came to the conclusion that I will never ask her to endure these treatments again. Jenifer means too much to me to see her be as uncomfortable and miserable as she was during these times.

I had a great childhood growing up; enjoying activities such as camping/fishing/hunting with my Grandpa, playing sports, playing family card games and joking around whenever we could. Even though I was an only child, I spent numerous hours playing with cousins and friends from school. I can remember summers where it seems I spent all of my time outdoors getting dirty and having fun. I later carried on the tradition of being physically active by playing high school sports such as Football, Baseball and I was the captain of my Wrestling team during my senior year. Another tradition I chose to carry on was the family tradition of military service. I have had family members in every branch of the military, and I chose to serve with the United States Marine Corps as a Military Policeman.

Many years after leaving the Marine Corps, I met Jenifer; shortly after meeting her I decided that I wanted to marry her. After about 6 months of dating, I asked her to marry me on a cold December morning in a park near my Grandma’s home. We were both shaking when I asked, and to this day I don’t know if it was because of how cold it was or just my nerves. Even though this was 3 ½ years ago, I make sure to thank her almost every day for saying, “Yes!” Jenifer is a very strong woman with a very close family who I love and enjoy. I am proud of the fact that Jenifer’s parents and my parents are still happily married, and that we all like to get together for fun and good laughs.

About 5 or 6 months before we were married, Jenifer and I bought a home. We have done numerous projects around the home, to include building a retaining wall and raising the elevation of the front yard a little over a foot, remodeling the kitchen, remodeling the bathroom, knocking out a wall to make our family room larger and more inviting and removing some trees to prevent damage to our home. I haven’t had very much experience with these kinds of tasks prior to meeting Jenifer but with her dad and my dad assisting, they have been a lot of fun!

Jenifer and I enjoy many outdoor activities such as camping, hiking, fishing, outdoor photography and exploring the wilderness. On most of our outdoor adventures, our dog Magnum is right there with us enjoying the fresh air. While we are at home we also enjoy time with our three cats (Chevy, Willy and Malibu). Jenifer and I also love animals, and can’t wait to share these experiences with our child.

With her background in childcare, Jenifer is going to make a fantastic mother! She is a very loving and caring person who loves to be active and loves animals. As a child, Jenifer had dogs, a few cats, a couple of ducks and a potbellied pig. She also enjoyed playing outside and getting dirty. Every time we talk about children, Jenifer gets a little twinkle in her eye and I can tell the wheels are spinning with fun activities and laughter. I can’t wait until days like Mother’s Day when my child and I get to wake her up with breakfast in bed! I better start now learning how to make scrambled eggs and how not to burn the toast!

If you choose us to be the parents of your child, I can promise you that he or she will be cared for and raised in a fun, loving and happy home. As I stated before, I know this must be a very hard decision for you to make, but I want you to know that your child will have the best life you could possibly want him or her to have. This decision you are making is very honorable and once again, Thank You so very much!

We look forward to meeting you soon,
Chuck